This past month has definitely been a very eye opening experience. Not only in my business but in my personal life.

For most of my life, I began to take in this belief that if I did not “feel” things, then I would never get hurt, be embarrassed or fail. Boy was I WRONG. Over the years, it would be very hard for me to be genuinely happy or excited for things. I was very stoic or unenthused. Simply because I was protecting myself from harm, or so I thought.

After my father passed away, it increased my belief that if I did not “feel” things then I would not be hurt. It suppressed my emotions so much so that I did not feel a lot of things, especially my new relationship that I knew was the one but was not overly enthused or excited. I knew that I was in love but could not express it in a way that showed her. So I compensated with things, buying her experiences and showing her new things. This was great for a while but starting my business from scratch and trying to build it was costly and I could not afford to buy her new things or experiences. So this started hurt and what did I do with that…suppressed.

So after hiring my coach to deal with the business and my personal life, things began to change and for the better! I started to be aware of more things that I was afraid of and what I was suppressing. But this month was different and it was a huge revelation for me. I finally realized that I suppressed things because I was so afraid to FEEL. Once I was aware of this and DECIDED to change my belief the world changed for me. I shifted my belief from, “if I feel, I will be hurt and ashamed as a man” to “I can feel and be a man”

This was a huge shift for me because my father was the man of the house and when he passed, I naturally thought that I needed to be the man of the house. But the pressure of not feeling and being the man clashed so hard it caused me to not do the things that I needed to. It wouldn’t allow me to express myself to my girlfriend, express myself fully in my business and just wouldn’t allow me to be ME.

Now that I have shifted this belief, I have felt a huge weight lift off of my shoulders and chest. I can now breathe and see if a whole new light. I wish everyone could feel (see what I did there) this feeling of being free and whole and so in your purpose.

Thought that I would share this experience with you guys so maybe you can start asking yourself some questions if you are not feeling the best or want to make dramatic changes in your life. It all comes down to the only things we can control in this life, which is our thoughts and actions.

What are the thoughts that are holding us back and what actions can we take to shift into who we want to be/do/have.